I want to start meditating

Meditating is probably much easier to do than you may think. There are many ways to practice meditation. Here we will focus on mindful meditation, which tends to be one of its most popular forms in the Western world.

  1. Find a conducive environment. You need a nice, quiet, clean place where you won’t be disturbed. As you progress, you will learn how to meditate virtually anywhere, even in noisy environments, but for beginners it is easier if you keep distractions to a minimum.
  2. Find a comfortable position. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to sit in a lotus position. If you can, then it’s better, but it’s not a requirement. Some people like sitting on a chair while others prefer sitting on a meditation cushion with their legs crossed. Find a position that feels comfortable. The only requirement here is to be able to keep your back straight.
  3. Enter the meditation state. Close your eyes. Take a few slow, deep breaths, breathing in from your nose and exhaling from your mouth. Then let your breathing become more natural and focus on its rhythm. It should be slow (but not too slow) and deep (but not too deep). You should start feeling calmer and relaxed. Listen to yourself breathe.
  4. If any thoughts come to your mind, acknowledge their presence. Watch them as if they were clouds in the sky. They are just passing by. At any point, if you want to make those thoughts disappear, bring your attention back to your breath. Stay in this state for as long as you like.
  5. Exit the meditation state. When you feel ready, and only when you do, open your eyes and slowly awake from the relaxed, meditative state that you’re in. Know that you can come back to this state any time you want. 

A lot of resources exist online. You may also want to listen to guided meditations that you can find on YouTube. Finally, a lot of meditation groups exist if you desire to join one.

About feeling stuck

Ever woke up one day and asked yourself something among the lines of “where is all my time going? What have I achieved in the past 6 months, year, or decade? What am I doing with my life? Do I want to keep going on like this?”.

Here’s my $0.02.

  1. Realize that the solution is inside you. Stop expecting things to happen. You are yourself, your body and your mind. Not the place where you live, your bank account or the clothes you wear. Fuck that. Start finding some answers inside. Take some time for introspection. Meditation, long hikes, or even going on a retreat will help you with this step.
  2. Clean up your life, get rid of everything that is unnecessary, material or otherwise. Get a large trash bag and start throwing away things. If some areas of your home are cluttered, this may be a good opportunity to get rid of some unused stuff. Get rid of those shirts you haven’t worn in 5 years, get rid of this furniture you hate that sits in the middle of your apartment. Get rid of toxic relationships. You will feel lighter, ready to move forward.
  3. Build a network. Meet new people. Like-minded people. They will feed you with original ideas. Maybe you always dreamed of becoming an entrepreneur? Go to some entrepreneur/startup events, meet some young CEOs and more experienced ones. Talk to them. What are they like? What did they learn? Make friends with them. Get inside their world. This will spark some ideas in your brain, this will help you think about a different future than the routine you are used to.
  4. Create an alter ego for yourself, find some role models and maybe a mentor or two. This is similar to step #2, except here you want to create durable role models or you want to meet people you will engage with on a regular basis. It doesn’t mean you have to be everything like them. See them as a source of inspiration. They may be more knowledgeable than you in some areas or have some useful pieces of wisdom.
  5. Keep your body, mind and finances in shape. Start exercising on a regular basis if you aren’t already. Meditate. Do crosswords daily if you have to. Find something. Some habit that will keep you sane and healthy.
  6. Arm yourself with knowledge. Read books. Get inspired. Anything. Subscribe to blogs, order some books from Amazon or your local library. Start looking for answers for the question you asked yourself in step #1. But don’t overthink things.
  7. Start creating. Do what you love. This is the most important step. This is the step that will make you move forward in life, that will make you special. Make a list of ten things that you love and you could start doing tomorrow. Then start. Build projects. Smaller ones at first if you have to, then start making bigger plans. Once you pick up momentum, nothing will stop you.

The five most important lessons for men in life

From a question I recently answered on Quora:

  1. Life is every moment you’re breathing. Don’t waste your time.You can’t take breaks. Everything you do will have an impact. Even if you don’t do anything, you could have spent that time doing something. Life is limited and life is opportunity. Seize it.
  2. Your family matters. Your close family members will be the people who will come to your help when you need it, no matter what. This is invaluable and you will need it at some point in your life.
  3. Most people don’t really care about you. Accept it. You have to help yourself. You are in charge of yourself. Once you enter adult life, you have to take care of yourself. Life doesn’t give second chances. Nobody will help you.
  4. Achieving a significant goal or becoming good at something will take years. You will need to work hard, get past your comfort zone and stay focused and motivated. You will need discipline in your life.
  5. Take care of your body and your health. This will matter on the long run. Exercise and eat healthy. More than 50% of people die from cancer of heart disease, which can be at least in part prevented by maintaining a healthy lifestyle throughout your life. I wrote an article on how to start running recently: I want to start running

I want to start running

You want to start running? Good news! All you need is your legs, lungs and a pair of sneakers. And you will enjoy life-long benefits such as a lower risk of cardiovascular disease and cancer, you will also feel happier, you will add years to your life and build iron self-discipline.


Getting started

1. The first few weeks

The first thing to do when you start running, as all trainers will tell you, is to start by building a base, which means you need to accumulate a decent amount of miles. This should be done at an easy or slow pace. So what is “easy pace” exactly? It means “conversational pace”, i.e. you should be able to talk comfortably with a fellow runner next to you, and you shouldn’t be getting out of breath. Try to build your base at that pace, not much slower, and in no case faster. That way you will learn about your body, what pace you can sustain and when you are pushing yourself, you will learn basic running form, and you will avoid injury, which is very common among beginners. You should do this for the first 3 to 6 months while slowly increasing your mileage by no more than 10% a week to avoid injury. Each time you run, pay attention to how long you’re running instead of how many miles you’ve ran. You are building endurance and not speed. Don’t focus on the distance you ran at first. This will reach your fitness level to the one of a decent beginner runner, and you will be ready for the next parts of your running adventure!

2. You need a training log


Another important thing is that you want to have a way to record your pace. These days, a lot of “smart watches” will do that for you. Popular brands are Garmin and Fitbit. You should also keep a training log. It is important to know if week after week, month after month, you are running faster or longer. It will also help during your run to know if you are over-exerting yourself or not. Remember, long-distance running is about endurance, which means you want to keep your pace more or less stable throughout the run.

3. Running gear


Get some decent running gear. Cotton shirts are uncomfortable, they will feel heavy when soaked in sweat and will feel itchy on your skin. Any sports store that stocks Nike, Underarmour or Lululemon will have plenty of options for running gear.

And most importantly, get a good pair of running shoes. In a lot of specialized stores, sales people are passionate runners who will take time to find the right shoes for you.

4. A plan

The next thing to do is to have a training plan. This will give you structure and help you build the necessary discipline to reach your running goals, be it losing weight or running a marathon. I recommend the one you can find in Jack Daniels’ “Running Formula” (link at the bottom). Consider the “Couch to 5K” program too (http://c25k.com/)

5. Running community


Find a running group or register for a few local races in your area. This will help you keep your motivation up and you will find that the running community is usually very friendly. You will easily make friends and your fellow runners will support you in your running goals. Some running stores (Nike, Asics, etc.) have running groups that meet regularly every week. You will find running groups and clubs online on websites such as meetup.com.

6. Gym, stretching and cross-training

Consider strength training and doing some work in the gym: squats, lunges are most beneficial to runners. Work on your glutes, strengthen your core and your IT band. Do stretches. This will make a difference down the road between faster runners and the other ones. It will also help you break plateaus.

Also consider cross-training: cycling, rollerblading, swimming… All these activities will help use your legs in different ways they are used too. You also need to realize that road running can put some stress on your legs and knees when you’re a beginner, and exercising in a slightly different way may help you recover faster and eventually make you a better runner.

7. Nutrition


Eat healthy. This means carbs, especially after a run, but also proteins and vegetables. Open some books on nutrition. Find information online. I will also probably put up a blog post soon about nutrition and diet.

8. Rest

Don’t underestimate the importance of rest. As a beginner, try to run 3 or 4 times a week at most, especially if you’re out of shape or if your body is not used to running. Resting is essential to recovery and to improving your running.

Resources for beginner runners




What does an IQ of 120 mean?

I just answered this question on Quora not too long ago so I thought I would repost it here.

The median IQ with current modern tests is 100 with a standard deviation of about 15 points.

This means that 50% of people will score above 100 and 50% will score at or below 100.

According to the distribution of IQ among people, 10% of people will score an IQ measure above 120. This means that if you measure intelligence by your IQ score, then if you score more than 120, you are in the top 10% smartest people!

Here are few of the tests that have been derived and are currently in use for measuring IQ:

  1. Wechsler test (there is one for adults and one for children)
  2. Stanford-Binet
  3. Woodcock-Johnson test of cognitive abilities
  4. Kaufman Assessment Battery

Now what do different IQ scores mean? According to the Wechsler classification (one of the most popular, you can see it athttp://www.washingtoncenterforco…):

A score between 90 and 109 means average intelligence, that encompasses 50% of the population. A score between 110 and 119 is higher than average, that’s 14% of the population. A score above 120 is 10% of the population, like I mentioned before.

Now how does IQ and intelligence relate?

  1. Something has been identified and called the Flynn effect. It’s the name for the fact that IQ scores have been increasing on average over time (let’s say over the last century).
  2. Being intelligent is not the same as being “book smart” or “street smart” or just “wise”. It relates more to your ability to understand concepts, think in abstract terms, imagine, being creative, how much of a quick learner you are.
  3. Real intelligence happens when you can combine both rational intelligence with the social or emotional intelligence that all (or most) humans are capable of.

So what’s our conclusion here? IQ tests are a somewhat vague measure of intelligence. A score of 120 tends to indicate superior capabilities in thinking abstract, dealing with hypothesis, and maybe a quicker brain? However, you need to understand that IQ is only an indirect measure of intelligence, even though it probably correlates with it.

African masks and art

I was walking in Manhattan today when I went across a street fair. These African masks were displayed and available for purchase.

But what’s in a mask?

They are essential elements of traditional African culture and are associated to rituals, especially in the western and central parts of Africa. Conceptually and spiritually, they are used to allow someone to forget his human nature and become either another person, an animal or a supernatural being or spirit.

Many different styles of masks have been produced throughout history in different cultures. They link art, civilization and society.